Chains

As requested - A word on chains:
A Chain is more in Gor, I believe, than in the BDSM community. For a Gorean, a chain speaks where a voice cannot be heard, a chain connects where a whip cannot reach.

BDSM uses it as a restraint, rarely anything else. It is there to hold and add beauty. But a chained kajira is often more than just aesthetically pleasing, just as they are expected to be more than a pretty face. A chain has so many uses, so many meanings.

A slave chained to a slave ring for discipline or punishment will be a very different girl to a woman on a chain at her Masters feet, adored even in silence. 

It can be a tool for the Free in whatever capacity they desire to use it. It can instil fear and uncertainty, convey displeasure, or support and ground a slave to her thoughts, reminding her of wha she is, of what her purpose is. 

I've rarely, if ever, seen another slave ask to be chained in real life. It is something decided by Men. This doesn't mean a slave cannot beg for it, only that I have not encounter it. 
Only once have I requested a chain, after I had been branded my nightly chain was stopped as I couldn't lay still due to the pain. I was allowed the freedom of the House on the knowledge I was constantly well aware of my position by the throbbing at my thigh. Once I was able to lay down without being in pain, I begged for it to be returned.
I sleep more peacefully tethered.

But chain me for discipline and my thoughts run away with me. I don't sleep well for days afterwards, my head racing too much to rest. I panic. So for me, chaining to teach isn't helpful. Bells on my ankles, on the other hand, so every step reminds me what I was meant to be, what I am, works far better! Of course, that is probably another topic for another night.

Chains have their uses, but I find them restrictive and suffocating. If I'm chained, I can't serve. I can't simply request (for example) the bathroom. It becomes a three-act play of locking and unlocking, which in my opinion inconveniences the Free, taking up more time and effort than a slave should.

The strongest of chains are invisible. A harsh or kind word should be enough to subdue even the worst temper in a slave.
If it doesn't? It speaks volumes of the "slave".

I wish you well, 

Kami.

Attentions..

There is a right way, and a wrong way, to get attention as a slave. The problem is so many don’t seem to know what the *right* ways are. This topic came to mind recently at a gathering, albeit not a Gorean one.

The problem, as I saw it, was so many of the “self-labelled” slaves were behaving like princesses. Like attention seeking pets. At best they were being brats. I saw a difference I’d never really considered - Goreans don’t take kindly to be forced to give attention to a kajira, unlike BDSM dominants who are happy to play along with their submissive counterpart.

Had I been at the feet of a Gorean Man and tied his shoe laces together, I would have received at least a growled word of warning, the same if I had taken hold of a dominants trousers in my teeth and growled. If I had continued, it probably would have ended in a whipping.

In fact, I have growled and hissed at a Gorean Man before – it resulted in my head at His feet and a stern warning not to repeat it before being dismissed from His sight. Goreans do not play with brats.

So it’s easy really, to tell the right way to get attention and the wrong way. A kajira is to have absolute obedience and exquisite beauty. So by being obedient, by being as well kept and pleasantly spoken, a kajira gets attention. What is most pleasing to Gorean Free is a subtle wit, and eager to please attitude and an openness that the average ‘submissive’ does not possess. After all, a slave can own nothing, not even her most embarrassing secrets.

Attention is not always a good thing, sometimes it is okay to just be sat by a Man, or in the presence of Free, as unobtrusive as possible, being allowed there is a reward in itself – not all rewards are treat-based. And the Free appreciate being able to talk amongst themselves, without having to coddle a slave every few minutes.

Exquisite beauty. Absolute obedience. An eagerness to please. Nothing else would draw the (positive) attention of a Free Man.

I wish you well,

Kamira.